“Then the Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone; I will make him a helper suitable for him.” Out of the ground the Lord God formed every beast of the field and every bird of the sky, and brought them to the man to see what he would call them; and whatever the man called a living creature, that was its name. The man gave names to all the cattle, and to the birds of the sky, and to every beast of the field, but for Adam there was not found a helper suitable for him. So the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon the man, and he slept; then He took one of his ribs and closed up the flesh at that place. The Lord God fashioned into a woman the rib which He had taken from the man, and brought her to the man. The man said, “This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called woman, because she was taken out of man.”
The Lord God said: “It is not good for man to be alone…” Adam did not know it was not good to be alone, but God knew that it was not good for man to be alone. God brought Adam every beast of the field and every bird of the sky, but there was not a suitable helper found for Adam. And in one of the most incredible acts of God recorded in Scripture, God would fashion woman from man out of one of the man’s ribs. In his beautiful commentary on this account in Genesis, Matthew Henry says: “[Note] that the woman was made of a rib out of the side of Adam; not made out of his head to rule over him, nor out of his feet to be trampled upon by him, but out of his side to be equal with him, under his arm to be protected, and near his heart to be beloved.” This is how men should treat their wives. It should also be considered that our wives are also our sisters in Christ. They are daughters of the King and we will be held responsible for how we lead them, how we treat them, and how we love them.
Notice the beautiful reaction from Adam when he saw his wife, the woman that was taken from his side. This may be explained by man’s reaction when he sees his wife walking down the aisle toward him with her earthly father accompanying her. What Adam is saying here, in modern terms: “At last! After being presented all the living creatures on the earth, I have found a helper suitable for me! Here is my beloved!” The woman God brought Adam completely blew him away. Meditating on this for a few moments after reading it brought me to tears. God provided Adam something he did not even know he needed. I believe God does this in our lives many times over. In Matthew 6, Jesus tells us that God knows that we need the necessities of life and He freely and graciously provides these things, but He goes above and beyond in providing the things we do not know we need. While the command God gave Adam not to eat of the tree was a test of obedience, I also believe God wanted to show Adam that He did not need that knowledge of good and evil, that God Himself would be the One who would distinguish that for him. We see this concept repeated in Scripture numerous times where we see the faithfulness of the Lord towards those who put their trust in Him. Those who trust in the Lord shall not be shaken. See Psalm 16, 23, 27, 34, 62, 63, 91, Proverbs 3:5-6.
Also note, that God brought the woman to Adam. In the same way, if it so be His will, He will bring a husband/wife to you. Be patient. At the right moment, you too will have a reaction like this. God knew precisely how He would create the woman and that none of the animals would suffice for Adam’s helper. God truly did something extraordinary when He created the woman from the man’s rib. Actually signifying that these two become one flesh and that a husband and a wife become one flesh. God’s design of marriage in the garden between man and woman cannot be corrupted by the world. No matter our efforts, the decree of the Lord shall stand, that marriage is between one man and one woman.
Though for some it may not be the will of God for you to be married. While rare, celibacy is a gift from God as we see in 1 Corinthians 7. This gift allows for an advancement of the Gospel that may be more difficult for those who are married. Nevertheless, this does not absolve us all of our responsibility to preach the Gospel to all nations. Paul also notes that celibacy is not possible for all believers and he was not discouraging believers from marrying, but that there were advantages in ministry by remaining single.
We must also understand that if we do not find contentment in Christ outside of marriage, we will not find contentment in marriage. The reality is that Christ is enough. He always has been, and He always will be. Do we really believe Christ is enough? Do you really believe that Christ is enough? This is where we will determine how strong our faith is. How we answer this question will show us what is most important to us.
I will speak to my brothers now, both married and unmarried, as this will be pertinent to them. To my brothers who are married, understand what your wife is. She is a blessing to you. She is your helper. She is your best friend. She is/will be the mother of your children. What is yours is also now hers. Treat her the way she deserves to be treated. Treat her to date nights, flowers, or whatever brings her joy. Spontaneously go out of your way to do something special for her. Do not abuse or neglect her. Do not belittle her or talk down to her. At the end of the day, you must remember she is your sister in Christ too. Teach her the Word of the Lord and follow the commands given to you in Ephesians 5. To my brothers that are not married, keep your faith. Trust that God will bring you a wife, but even if He so chooses not to, remain faithful to Him and worship Him for all that He has done. Christ is more than enough for us, brothers. While it is not wrong to believe and have faith for a wife, trust that the Lord’s will shall be done in your life.
God’s faithfulness exceeds the bounds of space. You will never find His faithfulness end. It is not good for man to be alone. What man did not even know that He needed, God brought to him. He fashioned her from the man and presented her to him. The man’s reaction was truly spectacular and again, is often the reaction every man has when he sees her on that special day. But even if God’s will be not for you to be married, you will still be a part of a marriage. As we, the church, shall be adjoined to our Husband, Christ. This is the picture of marriage found in Scripture, as man and woman are to be brought together, so shall the church and Christ be brought together. This day is one I long for. Until that day, may we keep the faith and wait for our Husband to return for us.